Thank you for giving us the opportunity at Serocks to spend time with your young person. It is our desire to partner with you in teaching them Biblical principles and empowering them to live the Christian Life.
Below we have provided a list of the most frequently asked questions and our answers to them. If you ever have any questions or concerns, please do not hesitate to contact myself or another member of our staff.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
QUESTION: I AM AN ADULT (18 YEARS OF AGE AND OLDER?) AND I WANT TO VOLUNTEER, WHAT DO I DO?
ANSWER: Complete this application to serve.
QUESTION: DOES MY STUDENT NEED A RELEASE FORM TO ATTEND SEROCKS?
ANSWER: Yes. But you only have to fill it out once and it is good for an entire year! CLICK HERE to download the Serocks Release Form.
QUESTION: WHAT IS SEROCKS?
ANSWER: SEROCKS is the student ministry of Southeast Christian Church in Parker, Colorado. For details on the values and beliefs of Southeast Christian Church Click Here.
QUESTION: WHAT HAPPENS AT SEROCKS?
ANSWER: Our staff design every service to be a safe place for your student to come and enjoy the very best worship services, time to hang out with their friends and meet some new ones all while growing in a relationship with God.
During our Wednesday services, students start out in a small group setting and get to know other students. Interest clubs and basic scripture study are integrated into every small group. After small group time, students meet together for a relevant, loud and inspiring worship service that is aimed at teaching students how to succeed when dealing with life’s many issues. During weekend services, students learn about relevant issues in a larger group worship service.
QUESTION: WHAT TIME DOES SEROCKS MEET ON WEDNESDAYS?
ANSWER: Each Wednesday night SEROCKS opens the doors at 6:30 p.m. Services end between 8:30 & 9:00 pm. We ask that you please pick up your student(s) on-time. Click Here for a complete list of service times & locations.
QUESTION: CAN MY STUDENT SHOW UP LATE OR LEAVE EARLY?
ANSWER: Because all of our services and small groups are set up to work together, we ask that your student participate in the entire service. You are of course able to pull your student out at anytime during any of our meetings.
QUESTION: HOW OLD IS "TOO OLD" AND HOW YOUNG IS "TOO YOUNG?"
ANSWER: SEROCKS is a place created specifically for 5–12 graders, so your student needs to be in one of those grades to participate. If your student is not yet in 5th grade, sorry they’ll have to wait for SEROCKS but you can Click Here for other options available at Southeast Christian Church.
If your student is 18, or out of High School, the time has come for us to part ways. Unless, of course, they are a member of Southeast Christian Church and want to help us serve students each week. If that's the case stop by our offices or guest services desk and we'll point you in the right direction.
QUESTION: CAN PARENTS COME?
ANSWER: We have designed SEROCKS to be a place specifically for students, but we want parents to feel welcome to see what their students are enjoying. We have created an open door policy for parents and welcome them. Just make sure to check-in at the registration booth so that we can have record of your visit and give you "red carpet" treatment.
QUESTION: DO I NEED TO GIVE MY STUDENTS MONEY?
ANSWER: The only thing that costs money at SEROCKS is the food, everything else is free. So if their stomach is talking to them when you drop them off, you might want to give them a little money to buy some snacks. Otherwise, relax it's on the house.
QUESTION: HOW DO I GET TO SEROCKS?
ANSWER: Click Here for a map and directions to SEROCKS.
Questions and Answers
Our Daughter's Changing Body
Q: I want to talk to my daughter about her changing body and sex. Can you recommend some Christian resources that would help?
A: Most girls begin to experience changes in their bodies between the ages of 8 and 13 with some sooner and some later. Puberty can be an exciting time but can also be frightening and confusing. Girls wonder what is happening to their bodies and also wonder if others are experiencing the same changes. For a parent (usually mom does the talking but not always), it can be a scary subject to approach. -read more-
Q: Help!! I don’t know how to start the conversation with my daughter and what to say when I do.
A: This can be a scary subject to approach especially if our own mother’s made it hard for us to ask questions about our changing bodies. Keep in mind that our daughter’s truly don’t know about these issues and want someone they can ask without being afraid of embarrassment. Here are a few suggestions to help you get started... -read more-
Making Friends and Girl Drama
Q: My daughter is struggling to make friends. How can I help her?
A: This is an issue that most moms face at one point or another in raising our girls. It is also a heart wrenching one as it’s hard to see our daughters struggling. The good news is that there are some things you can do to help her! There are many resources out there that discuss this very subject. One of the most helpful... -read more-
Q: Girl Drama!!! What’s a mom to do???
A: Where you have girls, you will have drama. If this isn’t a Chinese proverb, it should be! Seriously, we moms often really struggle with this in our homes and it makes dads want to go hide. Understanding girl drama starts with a definition. -read more-
Dads and Daughters
Q: I wish my husband was more involved in our girls’ lives. What are some suggestions I can offer him and how can I encourage him to get involved?
A: Many fathers want to be involved but just simply don’t know what to do. Maybe they didn’t grow up with a sister in the house or this is their first daughter. The task of figuring out a girl is a daunting one for most men/fathers! We women are complex and our daughters are little versions of us. Here are a few suggestions to help dads on their way. -read more-
Q: How important is the father/daughter relationship?
A: I cannot over emphasize the importance of a father’s role in his daughter life. A father’s behavior has enormous power over his daughter’s tender heart. A father’s love, or lack thereof, shapes his daughters view of herself as well as of men in general. Even more important, her father’s love shapes her view of God. -read more-
Dating and Purity
Q: My daughter wants to start dating. Are there any guidelines for this?
A: Dating can be an exciting time for our daughters and a terrifying time for moms/dads! What we parents need to realize is that today’s dating scene is radically different from when we were dating. I don’t have to tell you how much times have changed. Premarital sex is rampant among both Christians and non-Christians. Throw in peer pressure, binge drinking and societies message of “if it feels good do it” and you have a recipe that won’t taste too great. -read more-
Q: How can I help my daughter understand the importance of staying pure until she is married? There is so much pressure in the world today to have sex outside of marriage.
A: We live in an “anything goes” world and our teens are bombarded from all sides with sexual temptation and the message premarital sex is just what people do and that there is nothing wrong with it. Put those messages alongside God’s word and teachings from parents/ church etc. and it’s no wonder our daughters are so confused. -read more-
Q: I think my daughter might be cutting herself. What exactly is considered cutting and why would she do this to herself?
A: Cutting is becoming a big problem in our society with teenagers (mostly girls but guys also exhibit the behavior). It has even been deemed, in some professional circles, as the “New Anorexia”. Cutting is considered to be a Self Injury or Self Destructive disorder. -read more-
Q: If my child is cutting herself, what should I do and how can I get her help?
A: When a parent discovers that their child is cutting herself, they are shocked and want to blame themselves as parents. This reaction is perfectly normal but blaming ourselves, at this time, is not helping our child. Please remember that cutting is a sign of a deeper, more serious issue and a cry for help. -read more-
Ministries at SeRocks
Q: How can I get my daughter involved in SeRocks and the girl’s ministry?
A: SeRocks offers many activities and events, throughout the year, for kids in 5th thru 12th grades. “Have you ever thought church was boring? It doesn’t have to be and SeRocks provides an alternative to the drab, outdated recollections you have about church. Join us every Wednesday, Saturday and Sunday for an unforgettable experience that is relevant to you, right where you are in life and inspire you to go deeper in your walk with God and His son, Jesus Christ." -read more-
When your daughter won't talk to you
Q: “Why won’t she talk to me?” Why our daughter’s won’t seem to open up to us and tell us what is going on in their lives.
A: So many times, we moms (especially ones with teenagers) wonder why our daughter(s) is shutting us out. We used to have such a close relationship and she would tell us everything. Now, however, she seems so quiet and distant and we are left to wonder “what happened”. -read more-
Q: What can we do to be better listeners and have our girls talk to us again?
A: When our girls talk to us, are we truly listening or are we distracted? As Shellenberger & Gowler point out, God has gifted us moms with the ability to seriously multitask. We can be cooking dinner, writing notes for our day tomorrow and folding laundry all at the same time. -read more-
Q: I think my daughter might be depressed? How can I tell?
A: Depression is a serious, yet often, misunderstood illness. Yes, I said illness. Depression is no different than any other illness. It is a chemical imbalance, in the brain, that a person cannot control. Unfortunately, depression has long carried a stigma but this needs to change. I speak from personal experience. -read more-
Q: I’m pretty sure my daughter is suffering from depression. Where to I go from here and how do I get help?
A: First off, let me tell you there is hope! There many resources available today to help individuals who are suffering from this scary and often debilitating illness. The first thing you daughter needs is you. Imagine how frightened you would be, as an adult, if you were experiencing feelings that you didn’t understand. -read more-
Q: Is it important to set boundaries with our preteen/teen daughter?
A: The simple is answer is yes...however, setting and enforcing them can be a challenge. Rules (i.e. boundaries) are a fact of life that every person faces. Boundaries are in place to keep us safe such as speed limits and expiration dates. The same holds true for our our daughters. Our role as parents is to keep our girls safe and setting boundaries is part of that. They need to know that we love them no matter what and because we do, we set boundaries. Just as societal rules are sometimes not popular, so are boundaries with our kids. -read more-
Q: How do I set boundaries and how do I decide which areas to set them?
A: In her article for Focus on The Family, Tiffany Stuart (2008) likens setting boundaries to a door. When we open the door to give our teens the appropriate amount of freedom, we allow them to make their own decisions and experience life’s lessons of success and failure. The door may need to be closed a little or shut completely if you feel trust has been broken. You can reopen the door, a little or a lot, whenever you feel she is ready. -read more-